In a perfect world, everybody would get along
swimmingly including office co-workers. Alas, offices are full of people, and
people come with a range of personalities, and not all interact harmoniously. Snow
White may have watched the seven dwarves whistle their way to work but she
still had to deal with Grumpy. Some fairytale!
Getting along well with others is not just a skill for
the nursery-school set. The ability to work well with co-workers, clients and bosses
is a must for professional growth, no matter the differences in temperament and
work styles. So if your days are spent dealing with the office grump,
know-it-all, or another personality type that drives you bonkers, read on for
some tips for dealing with difficult personalities.
a Deep Breath: If a colleague is driving you crazy, take
a step back and try to understand if this is simply a "different strokes for
different folks" situation. If you see that the person in question simply has a
different perspective or style and is not deliberately trying to annoy or
harass you, you may find some of your animosity dissipate.
the Air: No one is a mind reader. If you've failed to
communicate that someone's behavior is adversely impacting you, how are they to
know? Take time to calmly and coolly explain how you feel. They may be unaware that
their behavior has upset or bothered you and may be receptive to your concerns.
to Disagree: Sometimes people are truly out of sync.
You can agree to disagree with a person's work style or opinion. Just be sure
to treat your co-worker professionally and politely and make clear that you
expect the same courtesy.
it Up with Higher Ups: If a co-worker is deliberately
sabotaging you, shirking work or
committing a host of other office sins, schedule time to discuss the situation
with your boss. Again, be sure to remain professional and objective. Your boss
will be more receptive to your concerns if you don't come off as a complainer
or an emotional wreck.
the Boss is the Bad Egg: Bosses are people too and sometimes
you wind up with working for a difficult personality. Again, communication is
key; try to dispassionately and professionally communicate your concerns and
work towards getting your relationship on a better footing. If the boss just
can't be tolerated, consider consulting with your HR department for guidance or
in a worst case scenario, explore other job options within the organization or
Have you had trouble dealing with difficult
personalities at work? Does your office have any policies that keep office
relationships harmonious? Share your thoughts here
and on the Beyond Folders Community's Facebook page.
by Candie Harris
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